Answer: The purpose of the club is to introduce genuine people to each other. Then it is up to them if they want to meet in person or not. What happens between 2 consenting adults is no longer my concern and I would prefer to stay out of it because it is none of my business. What I have noticed that has come into play are the cultural differences, logistics, and trust issues. Most of the ladies have never been outside their city and will find meeting with someone from another country for the first time to be intimidating and downright scary. In fairness, it is not right for me to expose everyone to a world that they have limited knowledge and experience with, then leave them to their own devices. The obstacle of any meeting is the natural fear of the unknown between both parties. Since I have established trust between both parties, I am extending my services. This burden is mine to bear whether I like it or not, is the answer to why I am offering it. There are dangerous people out there and it would be irresponsible of me not to assist and protect the ladies and subscribers anyway I can from these people. Not on my watch.

Question: What kind of dangerous people are you talking about?

Answer: These ordinary looking people are experts at using whatever little information they have and use it to manipulate you. They will exploit your weaknesses and play on your hopes and dreams so you can lower your guard and give them access to your money or worse. Even I can be easily fooled with their too good to be true approach because they know so much about me and my weaknesses through this website. My job is to flush out these evil doers and keep them out of our club. Good news is most of these con artists do not have access to credit cards. Only stolen ones and even then their interaction will soon be eliminated. The common predator is pretty easy to spot but it is the complicated ones that are hard to identify. All of them always follow the rule of picking the easier target. By standing by the ladies and my subscribers, these criminals will move on to the lower hanging fruit.

Question: Why do the ladies respond only once a week and sometimes less?

Answer: The cost to use the internet at a cafe is on the average 50 cents to 2 dollars an hour. Most students have an allowance of 1 dollar a day they need to use for food, transportation, and school supplies. The people that do work only take home anywhere between 1 to 3 dollars a day. So even if they wanted to send you a message everyday, they do not have the means to do it. So you are going to have to wait until they have saved up enough money for internet access to check their account.

Question: Why do all the ladies need tuition money?

Answer: Of course anyone in poverty is subject to this situation but a common story that I seem to be hearing is that the tuition money was stolen. All tuition is due at the beginning of the semester but it can be setup to be on a payment schedule with the full balance due at the end of the semester in September and March. So what happens is they are given the tuition money but since they can postpone the payment, they use the money for other debts that have immediate priority. Normally if they need money they will pawn their cell fone to a friend or shop. This is when tuition money is diverted. Once the diversion begins, they will go into a stage of denial. Since they are just kids, they will start spending the rest of the money to reinforce this denial state of mind. Since tuition final payment due is months away, this is called the "bahala na" state of mind. This state of mind includes an elaborate claim of how they are the victim of tuition theft. Telling parents this lie ensures them that will avoid any permanent physical punishment to live another day.

Question: What does "bahala na" mean?

Answer: The best english translation I have for it is "come what may". It is a basic survival coping skill all Filipinos have to deal with the uncertainty that lies ahead. Mostly the uncertainty of having no money when it is due. They are able to compartmentalize and seperate the needs of the future to enjoy what they have today. It is a double edged sword trait that the culture displays. This is how a nation can live in a relative state of hapiness even under a third world oppressive and corrupt scenario. The Don Quixote syndrome where we create our own reality rather than suffer in real world conditions.

Question: Why do people in the Philippines think money grows from trees in other countries like the good ol US of A?

Answer: It takes a mega corporation like Google 1 year to make 1 billion dollars. The Philippines receives over 2 billion dollars a month tax free in remittance for doing absolutely nothing. The only possible acceptable explanation for this pheonomena is because where it comes from, money does grow from trees. Actually it is not big money tree. It is a big printing press called the federal government. They are printing dollars in the trillions like it is going out of fashion. So don't shoot the messenger here.

Question: What if the Filipina hates me the first time we meet?

Answer: Of course they will hate you the first time you meet. They never met you, they don't know you, they are confused, and intimated. So of course to save face they will hate you at first. I can assist lessen the shock of the first impression and move forward.

Question: Why are there so many young single moms in the Philippines?

Answer: All females in poverty will become pregnant by their early 20's or younger. They may not have access to education, good paying jobs, or family planning. Sex is the only exciting thing to do that is readily available and free. The reasons not to get pregnant do not apply to poor people because an unplanned pregnancy has no effect on their current quality of life. Local men that are unemployed have nothing to do but specialize in getting as many women pegnant as possible. They do not have the means to get married let alone to support a family.

Question: You do not allow bar girls to join your club but is it ever ok to develop a long term relationship or marry a (reformed)bar girl?

Answer: The fact of the matter is that it takes time, money, effort, and perserverance to court a non bar girl. If you do not have the time, resources, or resolve, then a bar girl is perfect. I reserve no judgement because everyone's situation is different. Expats and Fil-Ams alike marry bar girls everyday, just make sure it does not happen to you.

Question: If people in the Philippines are so poor, then why are they happier compared to western countries?

Answer: Poor people here do not live. They survive. So everyday everyone is happy just to be alive. There are also no credit cards and imagine how happy you were before credit cards entered your life.

Question: What if I am not rich?

Answer: This question keeps coming up so I will answer it again another way. When people say that, what they are really trying to say is that they are very cheap. They are so cheap that they clean and re use disposble plates to pinch pennies. If you are that cheap please save your money and take it with you because there is nothing here for you or anywhere else for that matter.

Questions: Why do Filipinas get divorced when they come to America?

Answer: Once they arrive and live in America, they are no longer Filipinas. They are now Americans and depending on the individual may display the same attitudes and behaviors consistent with other American women towards you and being married to you.

Question: What is the current ratio of men to women on your site?

Answer: This question keeps coming up so I will answer it another way. The number of real quality eligible girls participating is over 30 compared to zero real qualified men of action. Men of action meaning someone who will make meeting the bebots in person face to face a priority regardless of the obstacles with no guarantees. The website is still young and has not reached the right people yet. This club is not designed to entertain online fantasies. There are thousands of other websites with thousand of men and women that make their living pretending to be something you want. Since they make their living online, they can correspond with you on a daily or maybe even hourly basis. The customer is happy. The website is happy. The scammer is happy. Everyone is happy. These other websites are designed for the man that will do and spend the bare minimum. There are millions of men that fit this profile and they do not count as far as the ladies and bebotsonly.com are concerned. They mine as well not exist.

Question: What is the biggest complaint that existing paying customers have about your website and what are you doing to address it?

Answer: I would have to say is the lack of responses. I do not have my first successful testimonial yet so interest and moral from the bebots is not very high. That is why I made the private event planner service free to encourage the right activity and stimulate interest from both parties. In reality these girls are young and inexperienced. They are just kids and just like kids they will perform exactly they way you want them to if the right motivation and external stimuli are applied. In regards to what that is, just put yourself in their position or you can call me and I can discuss in detail from my experience regarding my interactions in getting them to join our club.  To facilitate interaction, e-mail me your list of top bebots you want to interact with. I will send them a cell fone text message informing them that they have a message from you in their bebot inbox and that you are waiting for their response.

Question:  Why do the girls seems so friendly and warm in their pictures and videos but so distant and unattentive towards me?

Answer:  I put a lot of work, effort, time, passion, resources, and caring into developing my relationships with the bebots, their families, and their friends.  I keep in mind and respect the 2 biggest principles when it comes to Filipino bonding and that is food and family.  If you can look behind the scenes that where ever I go whatever I do, I make sure that we are always eating with plenty of food.  Nothing turns off a Filipina faster than being hungry or someone stingy with food.  When it comes to food, be as generous as possible.  I try to meet as many family members as I can and always bring some treats with me whenever I visit their home.  As I grow with this website, I see it less and less as a business and see it more and more as a hobby.  A hobby into the study of people, places, culture, and most importantly relationships. Familiarity builds friendships. Of course these relationships are non transferable especially online over the internet.  You are required to do it yourself in person.  At least you have me as your trusted guide to keep you from getting lost along the way.

Question:  You claim to be the first website ever with standards and a screening process.  What are these standards and how did you come up with them?

Answer:  I don't allow bar girls, free lancers, webcam girls, exotic beauties, single moms, ladyboys, posers, seperated married women, horsefaces, and girls with missing teeth for obvious reasons.  There are hundreds of thousands of single men that come to the Philippines not knowing that this is what they have been corresponding with.  They spend an average of $5,000 on their trip for this very expensive learning experience.  I also don't allow other things like smoking or tatoos.  This is a family friendly website and maintains a wholesome clean image.  Nothing screams I am a bargirl, than heavy make up, dark eye bags, and especially tatoos.  Every bar girl that I have experience of knowing wears a tatoo.  It is like a standard initiation to the industry. Welcome to the life of sleeping with the most disgusting strange men for money, now here is your tatoo.  I came up with these standards to save you time, money, and most of all heartache.  Can you think of another website that does all these things?

Question:  So how do I get a bebot to notice me is the million dollar question here?

Answer:  If a bebot will meet with me who is ugly, with a fat face, old, and bitter, then you have the same or better chance of meeting this beautiful lady also.  I buy them a nice sit down lunch and give them bebotsonly shirts with ID lanyards which are are things they need and use everyday.  Most importantly I am there to share a dream and unique idea with them.  That is why they have trusted me with their pictures and videos to share with you.  I have proven to the community that there are intangible benefits to knowing me and that is what you need to do.  

This is not a website where you place your order and wait for your bride to be delivered with next weeks mail.  Just because you paid me $30 doesn't mean a bebot is going to care about you.  It says to me that you are disciplined with your money and you are serious enough to take the first step in your thousand mile journey.  What you need to do is impress the girl to make you stand out from the online crowd and local competition.  All you have to do is ask yourself what you have done or would like to do to get a girl to notice you.  It could be as simple as buying her a drink or all the way to something extreme like inviting her and her family for a weekend in your 150 foot yacht.  Notice I said family.  The quickest way to a Filipina is through her Mom.  The mother is the most important person here in the Philippines.  Everything begins and ends with the mother.  Nothing happens without her approval.  The gift you should buy has to be something she wants and needs.  All bebots need and want shoes and clothes.  They can cost anywhere between $6 to $30.  In terms of food, they all love Kentucky Fried Chicken and a bucket of 6 pieces to feed a family of 4 will cost you $8.  If you really want to go all out, all bebots really want gadgets like cell fones, cameras, or laptops.

Of course the advantage in the Philippines is that people are poor which means they will be more grateful and appreciative towards your acts of kindness.  Keep in mind we are not politicians or bar girls that are comprommised and easily corrupted.  Our ideals, loyalty, dignity, and self respect are still intact.  So we will behave and react accordingly under those conditions.  All relationships have benefits and you want to buy her something that reminds her and everyone around her how wonderful life has been ever since you came along.  Of course there are no guarantees and that is why it is called a gift.  But it will get you noticed.  How much notice will depend on the bebot, the gift, the competition, and other natural roadblocks to your objective.

I suggest you take her on a lunch date and a small shopping trip at a local SM mall. This lets her know that you are as serious as a heart attack with your friendship and create some distance between you and local suitors.  If you can't do it, I can do it for you even though I hate shopping. It will be just part of my penance and punishment I deserve for all my good deeds. I will take pictures and videos and send them to you so you can share the experience as if you were there yourself.  Of course you can always send flowers and chocolates but they are easily forgotten once they die and are eaten.  Pictures and videos cheat time by making memories last forever.  Contact me to make arrangements. 

It is your money and it is your life.  If you decide it is too much time, too much money, too much headache, too much work, and would rather spend the next 30 years alone without a bebot to stand by you, then I completely respect that.  What you can't do is moan and groan about how lonely and miserable your existence is, then not lift a finger to do anything about it.  There is no sympathy, even from the devil, for you.  Staring at this website and doing nothing will just lead to a whole lot more of nothing.  We are men of action.  We do what we say and say what we do without making excuses or lamenting on regret. We do not allow the mistakes and misfortunes of the past get in the way of a future we all desire.  Think about it and let me know once you are ready to take that first step.

Question:  Why do millions of men everyday send thousand of dollars to online scams usually from Davao but refuse to spend $30 towards meeting a real girl?

Answer:  I still do not have a good answer for this one and require more research.

Question:  Why do all scams use the excuse that they were hospitalized with dengue when you tried to meet them in person?

Answer:  There is no need to come up with another one.

Question:  Why do you need to know my occupation and annual income?

Answer:  The number one reason Filipinas get divorced is because you have Americanized them.  Nothing Americanizes them faster than a paycheck and credit cards.  So if you want to save your marriage, make sure you have enough income to support a family.  Every Filipina would rather stay home with the children than go to work to service credit cards.  I am not asking you to be rich, but make sure you can support a family without your wife working before you sign up for this website.  You can't spell L-O-V-E without a good J-O-B.

Addendum:  These modern times, to provide the basics of food, shelter, clothing, education, security, and entertainment for a family, yes a man does have to be rich.  If you can not provide any of these basics, it is best you work on that aspect of your life first before you join our club.  If you need someone from a poor third world country to make ends meet, then this is not the website for you.

Question:  If she wants to send money to help her family, then why can't she get her own job and send her own money?

Answer:  If you are willing to Americanize your Filipina wife and risk your happy marriage over the 100 to 200 dollars a month she sends home to help her parents, then this website is not for you.  Remember a job means access to credit cards and credit cards to the undisciplined, not only destroy marriages, they also destroy lives.  

Question:  Do some of the bebots have tattoos?

Answer:  Some tattoos are not obvious.  So if they are hidden then I am going to have to plead ignorance because I am not going to ask for a body search before they join the club.  Some tattoos are visible and what the bebots tell me is they were bored and it was something to do.  For now, just as long as their background and references check out, then I will make exceptions.  It is not fair to exclude them from the website if they did not know that tattoos are a condition.  As the website becomes more renowned, I will become stricter regarding this policy.  In the meantime, just as long as they don't have a Mike Tyson face tattoo, I will consider each candidate on a case by case basis.  This group of bored individuals are high risk and need this website to give them direction with something to do and look forward to.

Question:  Why are the Filipinas from southern Mindanao area easier to impress than the Filipinas from the northern Luzon area?

Answer:  The girls from the Mindanao Visayas are more desperate bececause they have less opportunities.  Compared to the girls of the north who have more viable options in terms of other opportunities like education and careers.  Most people from the south who want to have a better education or job eventually migrate north to Manila and surrounding areas.  Those who can't are S-O-L.

Question:  Do these bebots want to get married to me?

Answer:  If you make the right impression online and if you make the right impression to her and her family in person, then the odds are in your favor that she will say yes to your marriage proposal when the time comes.

Question:  Why is it hard for foreign men to find honesty in the Philippines?

Answer:  They will never find honesty anywhere unless they stop lying and start being honest with themselves first.  They think they can marry someone 30 to 40 years younger from a different culture without preparing for the challenges that come with it.  Instead they live in denial and just blame it on the other party for being dishonest when it fails.  A relationship based on lies and denial is doomed before it begins.  Pointing fingers will not help you with your future relationships.  It will just set you up for another failure.  

Question:  Why are there no men traveling to the Philippines to meet the bebots.

Answer:  Men will travel for sex or the idea of sex and not to meet the parents for a friendly handshake.  The system so far is unproven.  It will take patience, time, and a few brav